Discretion as a structural requirement
For sex workers as for their clients, confidentiality is not a minor convenience: it is often a condition of personal, professional and sometimes family safety. FindHer designs every feature — registration, messaging, payment — with this requirement at its core.
Protecting personal data
Sensitive information (identity documents used for verification, real contact details) is never displayed publicly on a profile. It is used solely to confirm that a person is of legal age and matches their profile, before being stored securely and accessible only to authorised staff. Workers retain control over the information made public: a pseudonym, a broad geographic area rather than a precise address, and photos they choose to publish.
Messaging designed for confidentiality
The platform's built-in messaging allows exchanges without immediately exposing a personal phone number or email address. This offers a double benefit: fewer unwanted approaches outside the platform, and a record in case a report or mediation is needed. Both parties retain control over when — and whether — they wish to share more contact information.
Payment: discretion and security
Payment is often the most sensitive issue. A bank statement explicitly mentioning the nature of a transaction can create an awkward situation, whether you are a client or a self-employed worker managing your accounts. This is why serious platforms partner with specialised payment providers that display a neutral description on statements, with no explicit reference to the activity. FindHer works with Swiss payment partners suited to this sector, so that transactions remain as discreet as they are secure, in line with each party's legal and tax obligations.
Why traceability still matters
Discretion does not mean an absence of traceability: on the contrary, a payment recorded through a recognised channel protects both parties in the event of a dispute (a service not honoured, a disagreement) and allows self-employed workers to declare their income with peace of mind, as required by Swiss law. Discretion protects image and privacy; traceability protects rights.
Securing your own use of the platform
Beyond the tools FindHer provides, a few individual habits reinforce confidentiality: using a pseudonym distinct from one's identity on social media, avoiding the publication of identifiable photos (visible tattoos, recognisable locations) without editing them, enabling two-factor authentication on one's account, and being wary of any request to share documents outside the official verification channel.
What this means for clients
For a client, discretion also means trusting a neutral payment description, messaging that does not ask for superfluous information, and the absence of public traces (public reviews with real identifiers, for example) that could expose their private life. A good directory protects confidentiality in both directions.
In summary
- Identity documents are used solely for verification, never for public display.
- Internal messaging avoids prematurely sharing personal contact details.
- Payment goes through discreet yet traceable channels suited to the sector.
- Traceability protects rights without compromising privacy.
- A few simple habits (pseudonym, 2FA, edited photos) further reinforce confidentiality.